How do I get you to understand?

How do I get you to understand how hurt I am that you invited your mother into my recovery room, hours after my surgery? How do I get you to understand how much it hurt me that you disregarded my feelings so that you could protect your mothers? How do I get you to understand how embarrassing it was to have her in the room when my catheter was removed and I was trying to pee? How do I get you to understand how much it hurts when you put others over me? How do I get you to understand that I am still processing hurt feelings, and anger, for what you did? How do I get you to understand the mix of emotions I have about having a hysterectomy at 40? How do I get you to understand how alone you make me feel anytime I need someone?